My friend acts nice in front me but when we're not together, she says some awful things about me. She also gets mad at me for a reason I don't even know. What should I do?
Love says:
I’m guessing there’s this “frenemy” thing going on between the two of you. One minute you’re friends; the next, you’re not. Sometimes it’s normal to go through instances like yours but if it happens frequently then there must be something wrong.
A true friend will never stab you on the back or talk bad about you to other people. Moreover, he/she will tell you everything may it be good or bad straight to your face.
There must be a reason why she does these things to you that you may not be aware of. Maybe you have offended her unintentionally, or maybe you made a joke that she didn’t like. Try to find out by means of talking to her one-on-one. Clear things up with her.
If by any chance, you really have done nothing against her and yet she continues to hate on you then I think there is no reason for you to be friends with her anymore. I don’t think a “friend” with that kind of attitude will help you become a better person. Just let her do as she pleases but try to still be nice to her no matter what.
Always forgive your enemies or, in this case, your frenemies, nothing annoys them so much.
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Hate says:
Love problems are easier to deal in Hate’s POV but, in friendship, there is a line that stops HATE to go all the way her thoughts. Friendship, indeed, is sacred.
Keeping it short and simple, I’ll say just deal with this like break ups. Revenge, move on, forget about your friend and eventually, you will find some new friend who will respect your friendship, nurture you, and love you equally.
But that’s not that easy, right? So let’s just deal with your problems, question after question…
What do you think is the reason why your friend is doing this to you?
Well, the obvious reason is that she’s jealous of you. When she’s with you, she acts all Angel. And when you’re not together, her Evil horns and tails pops out. I couldn’t think of any other thing why she’ll do that, but jealousy.
Why would she be jealous of me?
That I don’t know. Perhaps, you did something bitchy or there’s something about how the world looks at you when you are not with her. She knows you through her eyes and through the eyes of the world and she realizes that you are way much better than her.
Girls, especially best friends, hate this kind of competition. Best friends want everything equal—attention, popularity, boys, etc.—as much as possible. But when the crowd starts to recognize the one better than the other, that’s when the cat-fight and war flags rise up. The end of friendship. The start of a battle.
The question to you is: Do you still want that person to be your friend? Can you forgive and forget? Will you have that peace of mind after, that she will never DO it again?
If you answered YES. Good for you, live in a fairytale world…
Giggle with the bitch who talked against your back. Spend time with her, listen to her evil stories! Life is so wonderful! It’s full of sunshine, lollipops, rainbows, and everything that's wonderful!
But don’t message me whining…that the BITCH is back.
Keeping it short and simple, I’ll say just deal with this like break ups. Revenge, move on, forget about your friend and eventually, you will find some new friend who will respect your friendship, nurture you, and love you equally.
But that’s not that easy, right? So let’s just deal with your problems, question after question…
What do you think is the reason why your friend is doing this to you?
Well, the obvious reason is that she’s jealous of you. When she’s with you, she acts all Angel. And when you’re not together, her Evil horns and tails pops out. I couldn’t think of any other thing why she’ll do that, but jealousy.
Why would she be jealous of me?
That I don’t know. Perhaps, you did something bitchy or there’s something about how the world looks at you when you are not with her. She knows you through her eyes and through the eyes of the world and she realizes that you are way much better than her.
Girls, especially best friends, hate this kind of competition. Best friends want everything equal—attention, popularity, boys, etc.—as much as possible. But when the crowd starts to recognize the one better than the other, that’s when the cat-fight and war flags rise up. The end of friendship. The start of a battle.
The question to you is: Do you still want that person to be your friend? Can you forgive and forget? Will you have that peace of mind after, that she will never DO it again?
If you answered YES. Good for you, live in a fairytale world…
Giggle with the bitch who talked against your back. Spend time with her, listen to her evil stories! Life is so wonderful! It’s full of sunshine, lollipops, rainbows, and everything that's wonderful!
But don’t message me whining…that the BITCH is back.
PS: Revenge is sweet. You know the ways to your sweet revenge, my dear! After all, birds of the same feather flock together. Oh, I didn’t say you are a B, you thought of that.
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